Familyfocus is able to offer a Parenting Re-defined Programme which is aimed at helping, amongst other things, parents understand these roles. This programme covers all aspects of parenting at a distance, as well as some very practical aspects, cooking, housework etc. Support within the new home environment is also part of the programme. We are able to offer this as a stand-alone programme or part of an assessment package within any Court proceedings. This is an eight week programme including two home support visits to help individuals put into practice some of the issues discussed during the course. Courses are kept small with only ten individuals, thereby giving those attending the opportunity to learn new skills in an environment which is supportive and non-judgemental. STOP PRESS We are working towards this course gaining Accreditation Status and are looking for referrals in which individuals would be willing to take part in helping us to reach this status. There is a discount for referrals taken up at this stage, contact us for more information.
Are you going through the early stages of divorce, maybe even thinking about this? If so, you will know this is a time of turmoil, uncertainty, fear and anxiety. It consumes all your thoughts, all the time. Familyfocus are able to offer your whole family support and guidance at this time through our early intervention work. This gives you all time to explore and work out your feelings and with support help to move forward. Find out more, go to What We Offer, scroll down to Supervised Contact and have a look.
Hello and Welcome to our new up todate website. For those of you who know me, you will realise this cannot be my own work as I am one of the original Luddites! I am so pleased and happy to say we have a volunteer with us who is a whizz when it comes to all things technical – David Homley is the saving face of our website. So please keep checking back with us to see what is new on our website.
Not Another Parenting Course!
Being a parent is hard. It’s not like new babies come with an instruction manual. The most important thing I have learnt since becoming a mum myself, is that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We are all human and sometimes make mistakes.
Now imagine that your child is autistic and sometimes presents extremely challenging behaviour. How would you deal with it? How would you deal with the ignorant people who tut or stare when your child has a meltdown?
Before my son was diagnosed with autism, I struggled to understand him. Since his diagnosis, whilst understanding what generally drives his behaviour, I am still lost as to how I can help him. The older and stronger he gets, the more violent his outburst are. Does it mean that I haven’t disciplined my child or set clear boundaries? Does it make me a bad parent?
After an autism diagnosis, as a parent you are left to cope alone. Desperately sourcing any help I could find, I attended my first parenting course. Recently I have completed my fourth. All the courses were different, yet they all teach essentially the same things: routines, boundaries and consequences. The reason I have been to so many courses is probably because I am still looking for answers to my child’s difficult behaviour and even more so, way to manage it. Professionals seem to think this would be a good start!
The strategies I have learnt on these courses have good results for neurotypical children. The problem I have is that many of them make my child’s behaviour worse. Telling a demand avoidant child to stop what they are doing and go into quiet time is never going to work. In fact, I would likely be verbally or physically assaulted by my child for suggesting it. Telling a child, the consequence of not turning the TV off to do homework means no TV for an hour, would make a neurotypical child less likely to do it again. My child would likely throw things at the TV, shout at me and after all this, would not have learnt anything. Why? He hasn’t made a conscious decision to do these things. Most of the time, he can’t even remember what he has done. When he does remember, he is full of guilt and self-loathing. Does punishing a child who already hates themselves and their actions achieve anything?
The staff at Familyfocus have been a wonderful source of information and their support group, a fantastic place to meet other parents with the same issues as my family. Now, with this charity, I find myself not only taking part in yet another parenting course, but training to be a facilitator. Why am I so excited by this new course, after my dismay with the others? The Cygnet Programme, devised by Barnardo’s is a parenting programme specifically designed for parents with children on the autistic spectrum. It is a very interactive course with lots of ideas and activities to help in parenting an autistic child. It is a programme that focuses on the communication and sensory issues that many autistic people struggle with and there are separate sessions on understanding and managing behaviour.
Finally, I have some of the answers that I have been searching for. I will never be the perfect parent, but I will keep on trying to understand my child better and help him develop into a confident, happy and independent adult. Even if it means just one more parenting course!
We were thrilled to hear from a parent recently, about their experience of SHARE. Read here to find out more about what this support group can do for families with children with Austism or Asperger’s Syndrome.
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Family Focus Lincolnshire.
We are looking for up to 5 enthusiastic new members to join our Board of Directors to help guide our organisation. We meet quarterly, the first Monday afternoon of each quarter, in the local community, here at Moorland, Lincoln. We have both Executive and Non-Executive Directors.
Ideally you will have experience within the business, financial or legal community. It is not essential for you to have knowledge of or experience in the social care sector. We would like someone able to commit to spending up to 3 hours per month for the next two years, although this is negotiable and according to the needs of familyfocus at this stage of our development. Each Director has the opportunity to develop their own area of interest within familyfocus.
It is part of our Articles of Association & Governance Document that Directors do not receive payment for this role.
If you would like to apply, there is an application and interviewing process, or would just like to find out more please contact our founding Director, Hilary Sharpe at firstname.lastname@example.org or go to our contact us page.